{"id":635,"date":"2026-05-05T09:54:16","date_gmt":"2026-05-05T09:54:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/?p=635"},"modified":"2026-05-05T09:55:35","modified_gmt":"2026-05-05T09:55:35","slug":"who-really-succeeds-and-why-success-is-not-random","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/2026\/05\/05\/who-really-succeeds-and-why-success-is-not-random\/","title":{"rendered":"Who Really Succeeds and Why Success Is Not Random"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>The Game Is Rigged (But You Can Still Learn to Play It Differently)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Why \u201chard work + mindset\u201d is not the full story of who succeeds and why.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve been lied to about success.<br>Not maliciously. Just\u2026 conveniently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019re told that the people who win are the ones with <strong>self\u2011control<\/strong>, <strong>grit<\/strong>, <strong>growth mindset<\/strong>, and <strong>deliberate practice<\/strong>. Work hard. Wake up at 4 a.m. Believe in yourself. The usual script.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when you zoom out, a much harsher truth appears:<br><strong>The game was wired long before you made your first move.<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This blog is my attempt to answer one uncomfortable question:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Who actually succeeds in our societies and why?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2026and then, more importantly: <strong>What can you realistically do about it if you weren\u2019t born on the \u201cright\u201d side of the board?<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>A blunt, systems-level look at success \u2014 beyond hustle porn and \u201cmindset\u201d posters \u2014 and a practical guide for people who are trying to win in a game that wasn\u2019t designed for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>What\u2019s really going on (in plain language)<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Psychologists spent decades studying traits of \u201csuccessful\u201d people: kids who waited for the marshmallow, students who bounced back from failure, musicians who practiced smarter, not just harder.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn4\"><sup>[4]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They found patterns, then schools and self\u2011help culture turned those patterns into commandments:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Delay gratification.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Have a growth mindset.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Practice deliberately.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Be resilient.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Know yourself.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>But here\u2019s the twist: <strong>those traits look less like the cause of success and more like the side\u2011effects of already having a safer, richer, more stable life.<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s the part we rarely talk about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>What\u2019s new \/ why this matters now<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><strong>The marshmallow test isn\u2019t destiny.<\/strong> Follow\u2011up research shows that once you account for family income and home environment, the \u201cwait for the marshmallow \u2192 life success\u201d link almost vanishes.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn7\"><sup>[7]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Growth mindset alone doesn\u2019t save you.<\/strong> Newer studies find that simply \u201cbelieving you can improve\u201d has modest effects at best, and depends heavily on context and structural support.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn8\"><sup>[8]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Deliberate practice isn\u2019t the full story.<\/strong> Practice quality matters, but it explains only part of the gap between regular people and world\u2011class experts; opportunity, resources, and even luck do the rest.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn9\"><sup>[9]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Parenting styles track class, not just \u201cvalues.\u201d<\/strong> Richer parents talk more, explain more, and keep promises more often \u2014 not because they\u2019re better people, but because they have more slack in their lives.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Systems, not souls, drive inequality.<\/strong> The rich and poor are playing different games with different rules, yet we judge individuals as if they all started in the same place.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019ve ever felt like you\u2019re doing \u201call the right things\u201d and still stuck, you\u2019re not crazy.<br>You\u2019re just seeing the system clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Five uncomfortable insights about success most people never see<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>1. The marshmallow test was never just about willpower<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You probably know the story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A child sits alone in a room with one marshmallow.<br>If they can wait long enough, they\u2019ll get two. Many can\u2019t. The ones who wait supposedly go on to have better grades, better jobs, better lives.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn4\"><sup>[4]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That became the gospel of \u201cdelayed gratification\u201d:<br>Control your impulses now, reap the rewards later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But more recent work took a harder look. When researchers ran marshmallow\u2011style tests with a larger, more diverse group of children and controlled for factors like parental education and family income, the predictive power of \u201cwaiting for the marshmallow\u201d dropped sharply.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn7\"><sup>[7]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In other words:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kids from stable, well\u2011resourced homes were more likely to wait.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Their later \u201csuccess\u201d tracked their family background as much as their self\u2011control.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Once you factor in the environment, \u201cmarshmallow discipline\u201d doesn\u2019t magically determine life outcomes.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn7\"><sup>[7]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>And there\u2019s a deeper point your original text hits hard: <strong>for a poor child, eating the marshmallow now can be perfectly rational.<\/strong> If adults around you routinely break promises because of economic stress, why would you trust a stranger to come back with a second treat?<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Overlooked insight:<\/strong><br>What looks like \u201cweak willpower\u201d is often <strong>rational mistrust<\/strong> in an unstable environment \u2014 not a character flaw.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn11\"><sup>[11]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>2. Growth mindset, grit, and practice are downstream of safety and status<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Carol Dweck\u2019s growth mindset work \u2014 the idea that believing you can improve leads to better outcomes \u2014 has been a revolution in education and corporate training.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><br>K. Anders Ericsson\u2019s \u201cdeliberate practice\u201d research became the backbone of the \u201c10,000 hours\u201d narrative: anyone can become world\u2011class if they practice smart enough, long enough.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s truth in both:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>People who treat failure as feedback do tend to learn faster.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>People who practice with clear goals and feedback do improve more than those who just \u201cput in the hours.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>But the newer, more critical research adds nuance:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Growth mindset benefits are <strong>modest<\/strong> and heavily dependent on context \u2014 supportive teachers, fair chances, real opportunities matter more than posters on classroom walls.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn8\"><sup>[8]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn12\"><sup>[12]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Deliberate practice explains only <strong>part<\/strong> of the variance in top\u2011level performance; innate differences, access to elite coaching, money, and even timing matter a lot.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn13\"><sup>[13]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn9\"><sup>[9]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Your base text makes a crucial systems point:<br>If you teach a struggling student \u201cself\u2011control, resilience, self\u2011assessment\u201d in a system that\u2019s still structurally stacked against them, <strong>their measurable outcomes often don\u2019t change much.<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>It isn\u2019t only about how hard you push.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It\u2019s about <strong>what kind of road you\u2019re pushing on<\/strong> \u2014 smooth highway vs broken gravel, with or without toll gates you can actually afford.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Overlooked insight:<\/strong><br>Mindset tools are powerful <strong>amplifiers<\/strong>, not magic keys. They multiply the opportunities and safety you already have; they rarely create those conditions out of thin air.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn8\"><sup>[8]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>3. Parenting styles are adaptations to power, not simply \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad\u201d choices<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In rich and poor parents are contrasted along three axes: language, attitude, and stability.<a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Research backs this up in striking ways:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Classic work by Hart &amp; Risley found that children in professional families heard more than <strong>three times<\/strong> as many words per hour as children in welfare\u2011recipient families, creating a cumulative \u201cword gap\u201d of tens of millions of words by age four.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Affluent parents are more likely to use complex sentences, ask questions, and involve their children in reasoning; poorer, more stressed parents are more likely to use brief commands, often for safety and survival.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Wealthier households are more able to keep promises \u2014 holidays, outings, classes \u2014 because an unexpected bill doesn\u2019t completely blow up the family budget.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>From the child\u2019s perspective:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Rich\u2011style parenting says:<br>\u201cThe world is (relatively) safe. Adults explain things. Promises mostly hold. Your voice matters.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Poor\u2011style parenting often says:<br>\u201cThe world is dangerous. Don\u2019t question authority. Promises are fragile. Survival first.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s easy for the middle\u2011class self\u2011help industry to label the second as \u201cbad parenting.\u201d<br>But for families dealing with police harassment, fragile jobs, and constant financial shocks, <strong>authoritarian discipline is often a survival strategy.<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Overlooked insight:<\/strong><br>Parenting is not just \u201cpersonal choice\u201d \u2014 it\u2019s a <strong>behavioral adaptation to structural violence and power<\/strong>, passed down because it keeps people alive in harsh conditions, even if it limits mobility into elite spaces.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>4. The rich and poor are playing different games with different rules<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the most powerful ideas is the notion that <strong>rich and poor live in different game worlds<\/strong>.<a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For the poor, the optimal strategy is often:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Obey authority (police, bosses, bureaucrats) to avoid catastrophic punishment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don\u2019t stand out too much.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Try to keep your community close, because you\u2019ll need them when institutions fail you.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>For the rich, the optimal strategy is different:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Negotiate with authority debate, lobby, hire lawyers.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Treat rules as flexible and open to interpretation.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Teach children to argue, question, and position themselves strategically.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>So when we talk about \u201csuccess skills\u201d like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Networking<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Negotiation<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Public debating<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Confident self\u2011promotion<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2026we\u2019re really naming <strong>skills that are natural inside one game and dangerous in another.<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you grow up where speaking up to a teacher gets you labeled \u201cdifficult,\u201d or questioning the police gets you arrested, you internalize a deep lesson: <strong>silence keeps you safe.<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn14\"><sup>[14]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then, later, the professional world penalizes you for that same silence calling it \u201clack of leadership,\u201d \u201cpoor communication,\u201d \u201cno initiative.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Overlooked insight:<\/strong><br>What looks like a \u201cpersonal deficit\u201d in elite spaces is often a <strong>perfectly calibrated survival strategy<\/strong> from a different social game. Success, as we usually define it, quietly rewards those who were trained from birth to treat authority as negotiable.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>5. Social mobility is real \u2014 but rare, risky, and often requires leaving your world<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>History offers familiar \u201cexit ramps\u201d from one class to another:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><strong>War and revolution<\/strong> \u2014 historically powerful engines of mobility, but also high\u2011mortality game resets where many die and a few rise.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Marriage \u201cupward\u201d<\/strong> \u2014 persistent across cultures, especially for women navigating status\u2011conscious marriage markets.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Migration<\/strong> \u2014 leaving a rigid system for one with more fluid opportunities.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>The pattern is brutal:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Those who escape often had a mix of individual traits (risk tolerance, ambition) <strong>and<\/strong> unusual opportunities (scholarships, mentors, historical timing).<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They are the <strong>exception<\/strong>, not the rule \u2014 yet self\u2011help culture uses their stories to blame everyone who didn\u2019t manage the same escape.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Overlooked insight:<\/strong><br>Real mobility usually demands <strong>high risk and partial betrayal<\/strong> of your original community \u2014 emotionally, culturally, sometimes geographically. It\u2019s not just a personal growth project; it\u2019s a political and relational rupture.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>So what do you do if the game is rigged?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can\u2019t individually re\u2011wire global capitalism.<br>But you also don\u2019t have to stay fully at the mercy of the board you were handed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s a <strong>systemic, step\u2011by\u2011step approach<\/strong> that respects both realities:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol type=\"1\">\n<li>the structural rigging, and<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>your agency inside those constraints.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Think of it as <strong>\u201clearning the game to redesign your relationship with it.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Step 1: Name the game you\u2019re actually in<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most people never do this. They internalize \u201cI failed because I\u2019m lazy \/ stupid \/ undisciplined,\u201d instead of \u201cI\u2019m operating under specific constraints.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Take 30\u201360 minutes and map your environment:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>What are the <strong>actual power centers<\/strong> that affect your life? (State, school, employer, landlord, caste\/community hierarchy, credit system.)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What unwritten rules does your family or neighborhood follow to stay safe? (Don\u2019t talk back, don\u2019t go to the police, don\u2019t \u201cact too smart\u201d, marry within this circle.)<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Where does obedience protect you \u2014 and where does it quietly keep you stuck?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Write this down like a game manual. You\u2019ll be shocked how much becomes obvious once it\u2019s on paper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Step 2: Separate survival skills from mobility skills<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You are already skilled.<br>The question is: <strong>in which game?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>List your current \u201csurvival skills\u201d:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Reading dangerous situations.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Keeping your head down.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Stretching money.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Navigating bureaucracies or corrupt systems.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Maintaining strong family\/community support.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Then list \u201cmobility skills\u201d that are rewarded in more privileged spaces:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Asserting your needs calmly to authority.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Negotiating pay and conditions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Public speaking and storytelling.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Writing clear, persuasive messages.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Building cross\u2011class networks.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Now mark:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Which survival skills are <strong>non\u2011negotiable<\/strong> (you still need them where you live).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Which mobility skills you can start to practice <strong>in low\u2011risk contexts<\/strong> (online spaces, side projects, communities of practice).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>This reframes the narrative from \u201cI lack confidence\u201d to \u201cI have a strong survival skill-set; now I\u2019m adding a second toolkit for a different game.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Step 3: Build \u201ctrust capital\u201d in at least one domain<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember the marshmallow problem: <strong>trust is a rational calculation.<\/strong> If no one has ever kept promises to you, \u201cwaiting\u201d is stupid.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can\u2019t suddenly trust everything. But you can <strong>strategically build pockets of reliability<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Pick one domain where you will <strong>practice making and keeping promises<\/strong> \u2014 even small ones.<br>For example: a study group, a community project, or a micro\u2011business.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Keep the units small and concrete: show up on time, deliver what you said, communicate early if something breaks.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Surround yourself with others who are trying to do the same; exit fast from spaces where flakiness and abuse are normalized.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Over time, you create a <em>local<\/em> reality where <strong>waiting for the second marshmallow becomes rational again<\/strong>, because the people around you demonstrate reliability.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is the precondition for any meaningful delayed gratification \u2014 personal or collective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Step 4: Practice \u201csmall\u2011stakes negotiation\u201d with authority<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you grew up in an environment where challenging authority was dangerous, you will feel this in your body. Your throat closes. Your heart races.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019re not going to start by arguing with the police or your boss.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Start with <strong>micro\u2011negotiations<\/strong> where failure isn\u2019t fatal.<br>Examples:<ul><li>Ask a teacher for a deadline extension with a clear reason and alternative proposal.<\/li><\/ul><ul><li>Ask a client for a slightly higher rate than you would normally accept.<\/li><\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Ask a service provider for a fee waiver or extra support.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Before each attempt, script it:<ul><li>\u201cHere\u2019s what I need.\u201d<\/li><\/ul><ul><li>\u201cHere\u2019s why it\u2019s reasonable.\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cHere\u2019s what I can offer in return.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>After each attempt, debrief in writing:<ul><li>What worked?<\/li><\/ul><ul><li>What triggered fear?<\/li><\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>What would I try differently next time?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re literally <strong>rewiring your nervous system<\/strong> to tolerate the kinds of negotiation that rich kids are trained in from childhood.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Step 5: Design one \u201cmobility project\u201d that doesn\u2019t require betraying yourself<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Big leaps \u2014 migration, elite scholarships, radical career pivots \u2014 are often necessary for systemic mobility, but they can\u2019t be your only plan.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead, design <strong>one medium\u2011term project (6\u201324 months)<\/strong> that:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Increases your <strong>option value<\/strong> (skills, credentials, network, audience).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Fits your constraints (time, money, caregiving, safety).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Feels aligned with who you are, not just what the market demands.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Starting a small, focused newsletter or blog in your domain, building your voice and network.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Creating an RTI \/ transparency toolkit for your region and turning it into an online resource hub.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Building a micro\u2011practice around a niche skill (e.g., privacy\u2011conscious digital strategy for local NGOs).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>For each project:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol type=\"1\">\n<li>Define a clear <strong>success metric<\/strong> you control (e.g., 50 newsletter subscribers, 3 paying clients, 10 high\u2011quality RTI templates published).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Break it into monthly and weekly actions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Add simple <strong>feedback loops<\/strong>: what\u2019s working, what\u2019s not, what to change \u2014 this is your real \u201cdeliberate practice.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn13\"><sup>[13]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Document everything; you\u2019re building a <strong>portfolio of proof<\/strong>, not just a resume.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re no longer waiting for institutions to \u201cpick\u201d you; you\u2019re quietly <strong>building your own asymmetric advantages<\/strong> within the constraints you have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Step 6: Connect personal strategy to structural change<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>System thinking means we never stop at \u201chow can I win?\u201d<br>We also ask, \u201cHow can this whole game become less cruel?\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some starting points:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Join or build communities that <strong>challenge predatory debt<\/strong>, push for fair schooling, and expose rigged evaluation systems.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Use your hard\u2011earned understanding of how inequality is produced \u2014 parenting, policing, schooling, debt \u2014 to design better interventions than \u201cteach poor kids grit.\u201d<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn11\"><sup>[11]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Support political projects that <strong>increase real social mobility<\/strong>: debt relief, high\u2011trust public services, safer migration routes, fairer exams and hiring.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>You may not see the revolution. But you can stop being an obedient piece on the board and start behaving like a low\u2011level game designer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Giving credit where it\u2019s due<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This essay was inspired by a powerful lecture transcript titled <strong>\u201cthe question is who succeeds and why?\u201d<\/strong>, which explores marshmallow tests, growth mindset, parenting, class hierarchy, revolutions, and game theory as a way to understand success and inequality.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is also shaped by broader research on:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>The marshmallow test and its modern replications.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn4\"><sup>[4]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn7\"><sup>[7]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn11\"><sup>[11]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Growth mindset\u2019s promises and limits.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn12\"><sup>[12]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn8\"><sup>[8]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Deliberate practice and its critics.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn9\"><sup>[9]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn13\"><sup>[13]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The Dunning\u2013Kruger effect and debates around it.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn15\"><sup>[15]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn16\"><sup>[16]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn17\"><sup>[17]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Class\u2011based differences in parenting and child outcomes.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn10\"><sup>[10]<\/sup><\/a><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>By Albert \u2013 <strong>A System Thinker and Inner Expansion Architect<\/strong><a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For more of the underlying philosophy, see my evolving manifesto and frameworks at<br><a href=\"https:\/\/albertyzacharia.in\"><strong>https:\/\/albertyzacharia.in<\/strong><\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/albertyzacharia.in\/not-the-official-guide\"><strong>https:\/\/albertyzacharia.in\/not-the-official-guide<\/strong><\/a>.<a><\/a><a href=\"#fn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a><strong>Your move<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You didn\u2019t choose the board you were born onto.<br>You did not design the marshmallow economy you\u2019re trapped in.<br>But you can:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Understand the game.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Refuse the shame narrative.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Build dual toolkits (survival + mobility).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Find others who are redesigning the rules with you.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>What do you see in your own life now that you\u2019ve looked at success as a system, not just a mindset?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Drop your thoughts in the comments \u2014 I read them all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><br><strong>Comment below and I\u2019ll send you a link to our community of system thinkers.Tag a friend who needs to hear that they\u2019re not broken, the game is.Follow for more deep dives on power, systems, and inner expansion.<\/strong><br><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2042<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ol type=\"1\">\n<li>1.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; the-question-is-who-succeeds-and-why.docx&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>2.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.all-about-psychology.com\/growth-mindset-theory-evidence-applications.html\">https:\/\/www.all-about-psychology.com\/growth-mindset-theory-evidence-applications.html<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>3.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/equitablegrowth.org\/how-economic-inequality-affects-childrens-outcomes\/\">https:\/\/equitablegrowth.org\/how-economic-inequality-affects-childrens-outcomes\/<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>4.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencemag.org\/lookup\/doi\/10.1126\/science.306.5695.369l\">https:\/\/www.sciencemag.org\/lookup\/doi\/10.1126\/science.306.5695.369l<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>5.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0160289613000421\">https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0160289613000421<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>6.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologicalscience.org\/publications\/observer\/obsonline\/a-new-approach-to-the-marshmallow-test-yields-complex-findings.html\">https:\/\/www.psychologicalscience.org\/publications\/observer\/obsonline\/a-new-approach-to-the-marshmallow-test-yields-complex-findings.html<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>7.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/anderson-review.ucla.edu\/new-study-disavows-marshmallow-tests-predictive-powers\/\">https:\/\/anderson-review.ucla.edu\/new-study-disavows-marshmallow-tests-predictive-powers\/<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>8.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beautifulminds-newsletter.com\/p\/growth-mindset-theory-whats-the-actual\">https:\/\/www.beautifulminds-newsletter.com\/p\/growth-mindset-theory-whats-the-actual<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>9.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC7461852\/\">https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC7461852\/<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>10.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2015\/12\/18\/upshot\/rich-children-and-poor-ones-are-raised-very-differently.html\">https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2015\/12\/18\/upshot\/rich-children-and-poor-ones-are-raised-very-differently.html<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>11.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/psyche.co\/ideas\/what-the-marshmallow-test-got-wrong-about-child-psychology\">https:\/\/psyche.co\/ideas\/what-the-marshmallow-test-got-wrong-about-child-psychology<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>12.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/learningspy.co.uk\/psychology\/growth-mindset-bollocks\/\">https:\/\/learningspy.co.uk\/psychology\/growth-mindset-bollocks\/<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>13.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/journals\/psychology\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2020.01134\/pdf\">https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/journals\/psychology\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2020.01134\/pdf<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>14.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.news4jax.com\/news\/morning-show\/2020\/01\/15\/rich-vs-poor-children-recognize-social-class-early\/\">https:\/\/www.news4jax.com\/news\/morning-show\/2020\/01\/15\/rich-vs-poor-children-recognize-social-class-early\/<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>15.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC8992690\/\">https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC8992690\/<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>16.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bps.org.uk\/psychologist\/dunning-kruger-effect-and-its-discontents\">https:\/\/www.bps.org.uk\/psychologist\/dunning-kruger-effect-and-its-discontents<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>17.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect\">https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Dunning\u2013Kruger_effect<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>18.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/muse.jhu.edu\/article\/622294\">https:\/\/muse.jhu.edu\/article\/622294<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>19.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/linkinghub.elsevier.com\/retrieve\/pii\/S0002916522005421\">https:\/\/linkinghub.elsevier.com\/retrieve\/pii\/S0002916522005421<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>20.&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/linkinghub.elsevier.com\/retrieve\/pii\/S0960982207022609\">https:\/\/linkinghub.elsevier.com\/retrieve\/pii\/S0960982207022609<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>21.&nbsp;&nbsp; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/17439760.2012.711350\">http:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/17439760.2012.711350<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>22.&nbsp; <a href=\"http:\/\/jolie.uab.ro\/abstracts\/17_24_tom1_9_book_review_roberto_luis_carr\">http:\/\/jolie.uab.ro\/abstracts\/17_24_tom1_9_book_review_roberto_luis_carr<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>23.&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.semanticscholar.org\/paper\/e22e354898073fb6982f011b99ead77d1546947b\">https:\/\/www.semanticscholar.org\/paper\/e22e354898073fb6982f011b99ead77d1546947b<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>24.&nbsp; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.taylorfrancis.com\/books\/9781317567172\/chapters\/10.4324\/9781315736495-3\">https:\/\/www.taylorfrancis.com\/books\/9781317567172\/chapters\/10.4324\/9781315736495-3<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A deep, human look at who succeeds, why they do, and how class, parenting, trust, and systems shape outcomes far more than motivation alone.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":636,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[387,175,437,388],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=635"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":638,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions\/638"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/636"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=635"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=635"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wiki.milletify.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=635"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}